You might be at a point along your growth journey where you feel lost. Friends and family don’t fully understand your struggles, and talking to a therapist might not hit to spot either. You know you need to go deeper into your journey of growth and healing, but finding someone who’s like-minded (while able to effectively help) can pose a challenge.
In this case, a spiritual coach might be exactly what you need. At certain points, we all need help along our spiritual journeys, because no person is an island. This is where mentors, teachers, and coaches play a pivotal role in supporting you through your biggest struggles, and can guide you when the sailing gets rough.
Since stepping into the role myself, I’ve learned a lot about what it means to guide others, and how to do it effectively. Whether you’re interested in booking a call with me, finding someone else to help you, or stepping into the role yourself, let’s look at what makes a good spiritual coach, and how they can help you.
What does a spiritual coach do?
Spiritual coaching is geared towards helping the client navigate the challenges they face along their spiritual growth journey. As coaching can be a powerful catalyst for personal transformation, spiritual coaching guides people to develop a stronger connection to their spiritual bodies, while cultivating outlooks that provide a deeper sense of fulfillment.
Look at a spiritual coach as a holistic life coach. The nature of their work is more existential, while their guidance revolves around insights and teachings that get to the roots of the matter.
Even though spiritual coaches also provide actions to implement, primarily they create a nurturing space to help their clients explore themselves. In this sense, spiritual coaching focuses on the more holistic aspects of well-being, rather than the tangible, goal-oriented side of it.
This is why it’s important to find a spiritual coach who you resonate with, and who can help you where you need it the most. Whether this be healing, finding peace, or developing your spiritual gifts, a spiritual coach will work closely with you to explore your consciousness, and discover the answers you’re looking for.
When would you need a spiritual coach?
Look at a spiritual coach as a type of guide. They’re people who can help you accelerate your growth process (on all dimensions of your life experience) while facilitating inner work and deeper levels of healing. People tend to seek out spiritual coaches when the nature of their problem is existential (no clear cause or solution).
A life coach focuses on the physical layer of reality, which is to help change the client’s life condition. A therapist works primarily with the emotional body, to facilitate healing and encourage better mental health. A psychologist works primarily with the mental body. A spiritual coach works primarily with the spiritual body, by helping their clients cultivate a deeper sense of meaning within their lives.
In this sense, a spiritual coach focuses more on the intrinsic level of self. Instead of necessarily helping you change your outside situation (although the outside is a manifestation of the inner work too), they help you make a movement with your healing, perception, mentalities, and spiritual growth.
Working with a spiritual coach will give you the necessary guidance, insight, and tools to embody a higher version of yourself and ultimately become more fulfilled in your life. By tackling the deep-rooted imbalances, you’ll find that naturally, you will make progress in other areas of your life too.
What qualifies someone to be a spiritual coach?
As spiritual coaching is primarily based on guiding people who are encountering obstacles within their own spiritual paths, there are no recognized qualifications to become a spiritual coach, nor should there be.
A spiritual coach falls into a mentor position, as they’re people with a lot of wisdom regarding spirituality, and spiritual growth. In this sense, look at a spiritual coach as a mentor or guide: Someone who may be a little further down the path than you are, but they’re also walking their own. They are generally healers who have a strong command of various spiritual crafts and modalities.
What can a spiritual coach help you with?
Each spiritual coach comes in a different flavor, with different skills, wisdom, and areas of focus. One spiritual coach might be great at helping you with your inner work. Another might be great at helping you cultivate new perceptions, or teaching you a specific modality. Personally, I specialize in helping people through spiritual crises.
Whatever you’re looking for, there will be a teacher out there who can help you with your specific problem. With that said, there are overlapping themes that most spiritual coaches are well versed in. Here are some of the primary reasons why people seek out spiritual coaches, and what they can help with.
Discover a deeper sense of fulfillment in life
Discovering a deeper meaning in life is a big reason why people seek out spiritual coaches. A spiritual coach helps you explore a deeper sense of meaning in your life from a metaphysical perspective. They will also help you figure out how you can put yourself on the right trajectory, to align with a life that you actually want to have. Having this problem? Get started with the article below.
Overcome stubborn blocks and reoccurring patterns
A block is an energetic imbalance. Most of us have blocks in some shape or form, and they cause painful reoccurring trends in our lives that seem impossible to overcome. Whether you feel like you constantly regress into old ways, self-sabotage, or fall back into painful outlooks regardless of how hard you work on yourself, a spiritual coach will help you find the underlying cause behind these blocks.
They will help you identify the underlying wounds and navigate those blockages so that they no longer wreak havoc in your life. Facilitating shadow work and using energetic healing modalities are common ways that this is achieved. Read more about these here.
- How to recognize negative reoccurring patterns in your life
- The ultimate guide to shadow work: Understanding and integrating your hidden self
Identifying and healing deep-rooted trauma
Even though trauma is more of a therapist’s ball game, spiritual coaches usually have a good grip on the healing process. This is because people who really embrace a spiritual path have often been faced with some pretty heavy challenges in their lives that initiated them on their path.
This is why spiritual coaches are usually healers. Instead of solely focusing on the emotional elements, they will focus on the bigger picture to help you clear energies, and move on with a clean slate. Healing from a holistic perspective can be a breath of fresh air for anyone who doesn’t resonate with conventional methods, and it can have a profound impact on your life.
Understanding the laws of the universe
If you’re looking to expand your horizons and learn more about how the universe works, there’s no better teacher than a spiritual coach. We’re not talking about physics here. We’re talking about energies, dynamics, and why we exist in the first place.
Whether you’re looking to understand more about karma, what happens after death, or learn some of the tricks and trades to live a better life, a spiritual coach can shed some light on the clockwork beneath reality. You can delve into these deeper layers of information with this article below.
Deepening connection to spirit
Have you ever heard the phrase ‘the master within’? Well, we are all masters, because our souls have been through everything. When you cultivate a deeper connection to your soul, the accompanying wisdom starts to come through.
A big source of suffering comes from our disconnection with spirit. When people get too caught up in the workings of this crazy world, that’s when they lose the connection with a deeper substance in their lives. A spiritual coach can help you connect more deeply with your soul nature, to live a more wholesome life.
Become more comfortable in your own skin
Lots of problems are caused when we put on a mask and try to be people we’re not. But the problem is that it’s so easy to do (and encouraged)! Spiritual coaches value authenticity and believe that living a life that’s authentic with your values plays a pivotal role in living a fulfilling life.
A spiritual coach can help you become more comfortable in your own skin so that you can live as the person you truly are. To learn more about why being comfortable in your own skin is so important, check out the link below!
Guidance throughout the awakening process
The awakening process can be a turbulent time of your life because reality sheds its skin in front of your eyes. During this process, people often feel disillusioned. They don’t know how to find grounding and inner peace during this process, because they don’t know who, or what they are.
The role of a spiritual coach here is to help people navigate this frightening, but transformational time of their lives. They can help you find a sense of inner stability while the world changes around you, and use the process as a springboard for huge growth and transformation. To learn more about this process, read the article below.
They will help you live consciously
There’s really no way around this, as conscious living is such a cornerstone in living a fulfilling life. Any spiritual coach will emphasize the importance of conscious living, and help you bring your awareness back to the present moment, especially when times get tough.
Of course, this is easier said than done, which is why a spiritual coach will gently bring you back to the present, and encourage you to cultivate a deeper awareness of the present moment. To learn more about conscious living, you can visit the link below.
Connecting you to your life purpose
A good spiritual coach will help you discover a higher purpose to your life, rather than beating around the bush and living in unconscious programs. Once a higher purpose begins to shine through, your life will mean so much more. Chasing money or relationships just won’t do it anymore.
The issue is that it can be difficult to find out what it is. Then you have the hurdles of doing this in the real world where you need to juggle work and keep a roof over your head. Connecting with a higher source of joy makes your life undoubtedly more meaningful, and is something a spiritual coach can help with.
Things to look for in a spiritual coach
It’s important to know what you’re looking for in a spiritual coach, because they’re someone that you want to see as a true mentor.
Unfortunately, there are many people out there who pose as spiritual coaches, or step up to the role for the wrong reasons. The person that you decide to work with must have your best interests in mind, not their business goals or feelings of authority. This is why you need to screen potential coaches to make sure they’re the right fit for you.
Let’s look at what makes a good spiritual coach, and some red flags you need to look out for.
They have heart!
Arguably, the most important thing that a spiritual coach needs is heart. They should always come from a place of compassion and understanding, where they genuinely want to help you.
I suggest you have a short chat with them before booking a session. Tap into your intuition and see whether they genuinely care about you and go out of their way to help, or if they’re just trying to close a sale. To learn more about what it means to have an open-heart space, follow the link below.
They are at service
Someone who steps into the role of a spiritual coach should be at service to a higher cause. This means that they must have your best interests at heart, and they’re doing it because they genuinely want to serve you.
What this means is that if the spiritual coach has other priorities such as making money, doing business, being successful, or gaining social status, then that’s a red flag. If they’re charging exorbitant fees, is it really about you? The spiritual coach you work with should have a clear mission to do their part for humanity, and it should reflect in their behavior, not their words!
They’re always transparent with you
This one is crucial! The person you’re working with needs to be completely transparent about who they are, and what they’re about. Without transparency, you won’t know who they really are or if they’re the right fit for you.
As they’re going to guide you with their wisdom and their experiences, it’s important to see them as a three-dimensional person, which you won’t be able to do if they’re wearing a mask. Furthermore, you will build a strong relationship with your spiritual coach. It should feel like a good friend is helping you, rather than an authority figure who’s just trying to get the job done.
Your spiritual coach should be honest with where you’re at and what you could be doing better. That’s because a good spiritual coach truly wants to help you. They won’t beat around the bush or give you false praise to make you feel better. Even though they will provide feedback in a gentle and encouraging way, they aren’t afraid to tell you the truth.
They’re great at holding space
Spiritual coaches generally have a foot in the healing world. This means that the person you work with should be competent at holding space for you, helping you through your emotional issues, and leading you through processes to heal.
What this means is that your spiritual coach should truly listen to you. They can take the heat if you’re venting, in tears, or just expressing yourself in whatever way you need to. This is an important skill for a spiritual coach as they will recognize the need for their clients to purge energies, to heal, and to create room for growth.
They practice what they preach
Spirituality is not a competition, but someone who is teaching others to connect with themselves should have a pretty good grip on it. They should have embodied different principles themselves which have given them first-hand experience.
Your spiritual coach should have plenty of wisdom to share with you regarding the laws of the universe, and how you can navigate them to live a full life. Spiritual coaches should be the embodiment of spirituality at play, so pay attention to whether the coach is all talk and no bark, and if they follow their own advice.
They are no strangers to patience
Sometimes it just takes a while to actually develop the outlooks, skills, and abilities needed to excel in your growth. A spiritual coach knows that because they have been down that road too. They know the setbacks, the consistency needed, the discouragement and feelings of regression.
Because they genuinely understand your struggles, they should be patient with you. A good spiritual coach will push you no doubt, but they will also show compassion in the face of setbacks, and always be there to help you get back on your feet, regardless of where you are, or how many times you fall down.
You do the work, they guide the way
An authentic spiritual coach will never take credit for your healing. This one is really important because I see this a lot in spiritual communities. If you hear any spiritual coach say that they healed you, or that they healed other people, run like the wind and don’t look back!
That’s because anyone on a spiritual path knows that only you can heal yourself. Other people can help you through the process and show you how it’s done, but you’re completely responsible for your healing. Of course, a healer is no exception.
They explore what you need with you
Any spiritual coach who tells you that you need healing is a major red flag. Only you know what you need, and only you know the channels needed to achieve what you’re looking for. Anyone telling you otherwise is full of it, because nobody is living your experience besides you!
A good spiritual coach will actively work with you to peel back layers of the onion to understand what you truly need, and how to go about it. Anyone who claims that they know what you need without actually working through your issues (or getting to the bottom of them) with you is likely all talk. Remember, your spiritual coach is there with you, not on top of you.
They uplift you, not put you down
If a spiritual coach ever puts you down or makes you feel unworthy, then they are not the person for you. A spiritual coach is there to empower you. Make no mistake, they want to see you grow to your full potential. They see a deeper part of you that you might not even see yourself.
With that said, any authentic spiritual coach will bring you up, not push you down. After having a chat, you should feel good about yourself and your life situation, because a spiritual coach has an act to ignite the spark and fuel you up.
They are detached from ego
We all have egos and it’s a necessary part of being human, but a spiritual coach should have a really good handle on theirs. They should have a deep awareness of their ego self, and recognize if it is coming out at all. They should reside in their heart space, not the ego self that needs to feel superior.
This means that they don’t talk down to you, like they’re above you, as that’s an ego complex. They may have some wisdom and insights, but they won’t know everything, and should always acknowledge that they’re human just like you.
Finding the right spiritual coach for you
Assess what you need
Maybe you don’t even need a spiritual coach. Maybe you need a life coach or a mindset coach. There are a lot of different mentors out there, and each specializes in different areas. This is why you should assess your needs before seeking a spiritual coach.
What issues are you needing help with? Are you looking for a deeper holistic view of your situation, or for something more immediate? Are you looking for actionable steps, or wisdom to improve your life? Really think about what you are looking for, and if a spiritual coach is something you would feel a good connection with.
Find someone you resonate with
Most importantly, you need to resonate with the spiritual coach you’re seeking out. If you don’t click for whatever reason, then it’s best to continue looking and find someone who you do resonate with.
The reason why you need to resonate with your spiritual coach is because they’re like a mentor. You will develop a deep connection with this person, and they’re going to guide you with their individual life experience and wisdom.
You should know instantly whether you mesh with the person or not. You should feel seen, and like what they have to say. There shouldn’t be any awkwardness or strange energy between the two of you. You should feel inspired by their life story, and they should be able to teach you what they learned through it.
With that said, finding a spiritual coach to help you out can be very helpful in developing a new way of seeing yourself and the world around you. Have a look around to see who you resonate with, otherwise, you can book a session with me by following the link below.