Feel like your life sucks? Sometimes, it’s going to be unavoidable.
We’ve all gone through times in our lives when life just seems completely pointless. It’s a constant struggle, it stopped being fun long ago, and it just keeps on getting worse. So you wonder what you can do to make this journey a little more tolerable.
And to be honest, it’s a pretty loaded question.
Seeing life as a disaster is a lens you wear. This is not an objective reality, but for any number or reasons, it has become your reality. But being a lens, you can learn to perceive life in a way that instills joy, optimism, and hope.
Life can be a heavenly experience, but it can take some work to make that happen.
Why does life feel pointless?
Life is a double-edged sword.
On one hand, it can be a glum, miserable hole where all roads lead to dead ends. Sometimes you’re going to pivot to this frame, especially when you’re going through a rough patch. But life can be blissful too.
If your life feels pointless, I would break it down into a few key areas, and look at those:
For me, life didn’t feel meaningful until I developed existential beliefs. Believing that life is a tiny slither of a much greater system makes it feel like I’m here for a reason. Believing that I’m here for a reason filled me with purpose, but you do you.
Your mindsets also play a big part in enjoying life. Many mindsets can drain you, and turn your entire life experience into a hell hole. Other mentalities can elevate your life to a new level, and make it a much more wholesome experience.
Your perception determines whether your life feels pointless, or whether you’ve been gifted the most incredible opportunity imaginable.
If your life keeps getting worse, it’s probably because there are several things that you’re not doing right. Everyone’s life journey is unique, so it’s hard to say exactly what it is, but here we’re going to look at some core reasons why people feel like life sucks.
You're not working on yourself
My life sucked until I realized that competence could be learned. The realization that I could learn how to become whoever I wanted to be blew the cap off my world.
From that moment, the quality of my life started to increase exponentially as I worked hard to develop myself into someone I was proud of.
So let me ask you. If you feel like your life sucks, what are you actually doing to fix it?
Are you pushing yourself to become a better person? Are you developing your characteristics, outlooks, and skillsets? Or are you are you not taking action at all?
Start working on yourself and take more of an active stance towards your development.
Embark on a personal growth journey and make the main focus of your life your growth. Understanding that you can become whoever you want to be is one thing, but becoming that person is another.
Here’s a guide for personal development to get started:
You're living in a box
If you feel like your life sucks and don’t know why, it could be because you’re not exploring who you are underneath these layers of conditioning.
So your life is ordinary. You work, you eat, and might have some sort of social life. But there’s nothing about your life that makes you want to live it.
Where’s the mystery? Where’s the intrigue? Where’s the journey of finding yourself?
A life without a narrative becomes stale. So stop living in a box and start exploring your internal reality. You’ll find that life becomes a much more magical journey when you get into the deeper layers of it.
Prioritize self-exploration rather than the meaningless pursuit of pleasure.
Start looking for new ways to explore who you are, and to discover new things about yourself, and the life you’re living.
Your values are superficial
If you define success as making a lot of money and wonder why your life sucks, do I really need to explain?
There’s a strong connection between the quality of your values and the quality of your life. But after you can live comfortably, there’s no correlation between wealth and happiness.
Potentially you’re barking up the wrong tree if you think money will make you happy, and this is the reward you’re getting. That’s why you need to recalibrate with a deeper meaning for your life and find a true anchor to live by.
Think about what matters to you, and what makes your life worth living. What is the spark driving you? And if you don’t have one, there’s your issue.
If you can find a cause that’s worth dying for, that’s where your values are. Use those values as a compass, and move the needle towards them in whatever way you can.
Your social life sucks
If your social life sucks, your life is probably going to suck too.
Let’s face it, a good social life is such an important key to living a fulfilling life. Simply, we need connections with other people, and the more substantial those connections are, the better we feel.
But if you don’t have people in your life, it’s no big deal. By working on your social skills, you can create a wholesome social life. Therefore, take it into your own hands, and develop the social life you deserve.
Start working on your interpersonal skills to build the required competence. The other side of this coin is to throw yourself into social situations where you can gain the concomitant experience.
Everything you’ve got going in your life is the result of your education and experience. Your social life is no exception. So if your social life sucks, it’s your responsibility to improve it.
Start improving your social skills by reading this article:
You lack vision
If there’s no overarching purpose to your life, it becomes quite meaningless. How can you possibly feel fulfilled if there is no reason behind the things you do?
Having a vision in life is a core ingredient to living a life that means something to you. Because life sucks when you are just floating without purpose or reason.
A vision should be your center of gravity: The reason behind why you’re doing what you’re doing. So if you want to feel more fulfilled, you need to create a vision for your life and identify what a good life looks like for you.
Visualize your dream life.
What does it look like? What are you doing? How do you feel? What would the perfect world look like to you, and use that vision to guide you.
Now, start taking small steps in the right direction, constantly, to achieve that vision.
You're a victim
Your life sucks because you blame the outside world instead of taking responsibility for your life. As long as you stay in a mentality where everything is someone else’s fault, you’re going to feel powerless.
This is the infamous victim mentality, and I have seen again and again just how detrimental it is for people.
If you want to have a fulfilling life, it starts by taking responsibility for everything that happens to you, which is the only way to discard this harmful mentality.
Learn more about the victim mentality here:
Cultivate an awareness of when you pull the victim card, and just how much you do it.
With awareness, aim to overturn this mentality by taking responsibility for everything that happens to you, regardless if it’s within your control or not.
Learn how to do this in the following article:
Your vibration is generally low
Getting more into the spiritual, your vibration refers to the quality of energy you’re experiencing.
Low vibrational energy is associated with suffering, whereas feelings such as resentment, guilt, and shame are low vibrational.
These are feelings that we see as unpleasant, or undesirable. The more often you experience low vibrational energies, the more your life will suck.
Your vibration fluctuates, but you can do some things to generally increase it.
First, it’s important to identify feelings that are low vibrational and feelings that are high vibrational.
Next, you need to work on healing the underlying causes of low vibrational energies, while consciously pushing yourself to experience more high vibrational feelings like love, gratitude, and compassion.
You're not doing the healing
Unhealed wounds add a glaze of disappointment to your life. Needless to say, the more trauma you have that you haven’t yet processed, the more your life is going to suck.
This is what it simmers down to.
The more wounded you are emotionally, the more difficult life is going to be. On the other hand, the more healed you are, the more amazing life is going to be, regardless of what you’re experiencing.
If you have put off your emotional healing and complain that life sucks, you need to focus on doing the inner work.
Healing is not a straightforward road. It’s complicated, it’s messy, and it takes a lot of time.
But as long as you set your eyes on your healing, and look at what you can do to make progress on your hidden traumas, you’re on a path to make life much less sucky!
You can get started with this article:
Your life is boring
Let me make this very clear. Your life sucks because it’s boring! You do the same things and fall into the same patterns. But let’s face it, your life isn’t all that exciting.
Luckily, your life doesn’t need to be boring. Your life can be eventful, adventurous, and spontaneous as long as you take initiative.
Stop living a boring life, and make the most of the time you have.
You need to spice things up a little. It doesn’t need to be anything drastic, but change won’t come for you unless you seek it out.
Start with the little things. Go to new places, meet new people, and seek out new events. If it’s in your means, travel for a while.
Do things that are out of the ordinary for you, more often, and you’ll feel the spark return to life.
Your thoughts get the best of you
The beliefs that you cement become the reality that you inherit. Your thoughts have power, and if you’re constantly thinking about how bad everything is, you’re going to live in a negative world.
You can see your life as a heaven or hell depending on how you frame your reality. This is why it’s important to work on your belief systems to see life in a better light.
Remember that every cloud has a silver lining. In every disappointment, there is an opportunity. So look at life in a way that instills positive emotions, and it’s going to be a whole lot easier to navigate.
What you focus on becomes a core part of your reality.
If you’re constantly thinking about how much people suck, or how much your life sucks, you’re going to reinforce that idea, and guess what? Life will suck!
But if you start affirming a more positive reality to yourself by reinforcing more joyful ideas, eventually you’re going to believe them.
This may take some time to turn over your perception, but to get started, check out this article: